Stop Snoopin' !!

This is soooo off topic but I just want to address this, last night Brandon told me that he was over my blog because he doesn't like some of the things that I put on here .. Well!! I mean it's not that bad =) at the end of the day you're still my boo thang && I'll always scream I love my B. McQueen so loosen up a little love!!

Ok I had to say that because when he told me that I was crackin up inside like OMG! But I most definitely see where he's coming from and I can't blame him but he can't be over it though, that's a bit extreme!!

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[*Lemme Set It Up*]

Now back to business!! I must say that I've been blessed with a lot of female friends in my life, some are still here, and some have gone but none the less I've learned something from everyone. It doesn't have to be life changing things but I've learned something!! I'm also blessed to have male friends as well. Ladies it's always good to have a circle of guy friends that have your back because it helps a lot in sooo many situations!! Like I've said a million times, I'm an extremely observant person, so whenever my friends come to me for advice I always observe the situations that they are in and try to get something out of it! Now lately I've been noticing a lot of problems in my friends relationships, and it seems to me that all of them are suffering from the same problem, trust. I'm a firm believer in if there's no trust, there's no relationship. And that's why I have learned to trust before I take the step into being in a relationship with someone.

I'm not saying that every time I've been in a relationship I've trusted the person 100% but I haven't taken my distrust to some of the extreme's that a lot of girls do. Even though girls are more likely to commit these offenses, guys you aren't fully off of the hook cause you guys are capable of doing it too. Now that I've put that on the table, Imma go into the topic of discussion.

[*Why Do It?*]

I think that snooping is the dumbest thing EVER. What is snooping? Snooping is basically being nosey for no apparent reason, going through text messages, twitters, facebooks, WHATEVER. It's dumb so stop! So many of my friends have called me crying because they've found something and now their feelings are hurt, I never feel sorry for them because if they were looking for something hell, they should be happy cause they found something, don't try to get all sensitive because you found some shit that you don't like. I mean seriously, if you go snooping through shit what do you want to find? A whole bunch of messages about how much they love you? Yea it would be nice but what are the odds? Slim to none! Here's my thing; if you feel like you should look for something then why are you with them? What is the point of staying with someone if you have to constantly check and see what they're doing? Everyone knows the saying what they don't know won't hurt em yea ok its fucked up but its true. This is where that golden word trust comes in to play. You need to learn how to trust!! Shit happens if someone makes a mistake it isn't the end of the world, now don't get me wrong by no means am I condoning infidelity or things of that nature, but no one is perfect! What people need to do is just flow, go through the motions, quit being so uptight all of the damn time. It makes me so mad when I find out about someone snooping. It's so childish and dumb so stop lol UGH!!

[*The Nerve!!*]

Another thing, I hate when they find something and then have the audacity to try and bring it up. Like I can't help but think, how does that make someone feel when they're talking to their sigster (significant other) and they're like, yea so I was going through your shit today and I found some things and I want to talk about em ... Yeaaaa that would get the side eye from me. Are you serious? The first topic of discussion is, why in the HELL were you going through my shit? WTF!! Forget what you find I wanna know why in the hell you're all up in my stuff! I feel like if you aren't married to someone or engaged then you don't have the right to go through shit. The only reason why being married is an exception is because once you become joined in holy matrimony you're basically giving up the I's for us and there is no privacy lol. Anyway, that really urks me when I hear about my friends doing that! So you go snooping and then had the nerve to tell them about it? PLEASE get your life together and GROW UP!!

[*Time to Perform a Chin Check*]

If you feel the need to snoop the issue isn't whatever it is that you're looking for it's what you got going on and why you feel like you should be doing that. Before you start snooping and pointing fingers you need to do a chin check ie. taking a timeout and thinking about what YOU are doing and/or what your problem is. A lot of people have trust issues but honestly going through stuff is the last thing you need to be doing when taking steps towards building trust for someone. Now I do know some people that are like, yea you can go through my shit cause I'm not doing anything ok when you get the "ok go" then do it, but don't just don't do it on your own. It makes you look VERY stalkerish and crazy. (Get mad)

[*Talk It Out*]

If there's something that is bothering you, why don't you just pull them to the side and ask them about it!! If you're in a relationship where you can't even ask a question then something is horribly wrong and you have bigger things to worry about. Basically all I'm saying is, quit being nosey and trying to snoop!! If what they're doing is that bad then leave em alone. A lot of times people let their insecurities get in the way of trusting their sigster. I'll admit I've had problems like this too because lets face it, no one wants to be cheated on, and no one wants to be replaced. But once again, you have to remember that if it was meant for you and that person to be together than you would be together. So if you find that your sigster has been talking to another attractive individual don't freak out and turn into a wack job and start making accusations, that's the worst thing someone can do in a relationship. Don't accuse, ask. Stop letting your insecurities get in the way of your happiness and your trust for someone else. A relationship is about the people in it but it's also about you. You can't work things out with your sigster until you can sit down and see what you are doing. People tend to say you you you when they need to be sitting back and wondering what they have going on with their damn self. Don't get too wrapped up in pointing the finger, look at yourself first. Oh yea and once again, STOP SNOOPIN!!

Ok I'm glad I got that off of my chest because it was brought up today and I really got mad ya'll lol I had to blog about it!

This video kinda makes me feel bad lmao but at the same time it's hilarious!!!! Bahahahaha enjoy =) ..

SO dope. *